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RE: When friends choose the wrong path - 11/20/2008 5:58:02 PM
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jn1010lf
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Hello not_the_first
Apparantly, your friend is not as close to the Lord as you are. It's certain that she has little biblical knowledge or she wouldn't date an atheist.
I might sit her down, give her the score. If she decides to go through with this, you might then say that if she returns you will still be her friend. She will need you when it doesn't work out.
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RE: When friends choose the wrong path - 11/20/2008 6:11:21 PM
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RubySparkles
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You could just ask her about the reasons behind her choice. Perhaps you already know something about why she's been sliding downhill in recent years? You could put it to her that as you feel you know her so well you're a little surprised. This reads to me like she just wants some fun/adventure. Keep in touch as much as you can when she does go.
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RE: When friends choose the wrong path - 11/20/2008 7:04:14 PM
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levimichal
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This has to be said if she is living in open rebellion to the Lord...
1) Fornicating
2) Yoking herself to an unbeliever
3) Not grown in sanctification but sliding downhill
She may just be a false convert.
Read the book 1 John
You may need to witness to your friend.
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RE: When friends choose the wrong path - 11/20/2008 7:12:46 PM
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jaimestarcross
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I genuinely want what's best for her and this certainly isn't it. How do you communicate that without being judgemental, yet speaking the Truth? My heart hurts for her. As a happily married woman to a wonderful Christian man myself, I don't understand how she can sell herself short like this. I want to tell her that without it feeling like I'm putting her down, yet I feel like it's my duty as a friend to confront her. It's hard because I don't even feel like we are on the same page about a lot of things, I hardly recognize my good friend anymore - I want my old friend back!
*A lot of people sell themselves short because they
don't have a solid relationship with the Lord.
The other reason a lot of women fall for a man who's
not a Christian is because too many Christian men have
hurt them or passed them by for whatever the reason.
A lonely, hurting woman will do a lot of things she wouldn't
dreamed of doing back when she was walking with the Lord!
*Continue praying for her and showing her the love of Christ.
Try to do Bible studies together and encourage her to grow
in her personal relationship with the Lord.
Don't do any confronting unless the Lord has put this
on your heart. Those He calls, He will equip so they can
do the task!
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RE: When friends choose the wrong path - 11/20/2008 7:26:16 PM
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deermousie
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ORIGINAL: levimichal
This has to be said if she is living in open rebellion to the Lord...
1) Fornicating
2) Yoking herself to an unbeliever
3) Not grown in sanctification but sliding downhill
I think this is a bull's eye. Naming the sin frames where she has to go to fix it. If she thinks you're being judgemental, point out you're being a fruit inspector. Her fruit is rotting, and Gal. 5:19ff says these kinds of lifestyles belong to those who don't inherit the Kingdom of God. If she stays where she is she has proved her salvation never happened.
The great reformer John Calving noted that loss of good conscience is the mother of heresy, based on this verse:
having faith and a good conscience, which some having rejected, concerning the faith have suffered shipwreck
1 Timothy 1:19
So a person of faith can get carnal and turn away from the Lord, literally chosing sin over God. And no person goes into big sin suddenly, but it grows from pampering some little sin instead of turning away from it. It grows until it's so big that other people can see it, like your friend's immorality. Her conscience is bugging her and she's pushing it, God, and you away.
So she has become a mission field. Maybe show her the above verses, and pray like crazy because it's a spiritual battle, and God can break through her hard heart and bring her back. You talk - once - and then wait and pray that God will be merciful to her.
Your friendship is compromised, I'm afraid. How can two walk together unless they be agreed, and what fellowship has darkness with light? She's walking away from you and you can't go there as a Christian. Grieve the loss, and learn to hate the unconfessed sin as the first step on a banana peel away from God. It can happen to anyone.
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