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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/16/2010 12:21:36 PM
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gerald75g
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So do you believe that someone with similar characteristics would be attracted to each other even people withe bad hygiene, weight extremes, no taste in clothing, even overly primped etc.............
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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/16/2010 12:31:40 PM
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Elena1030
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So do you believe that someone with similar characteristics would be attracted to each other even people withe bad hygiene, weight extremes, no taste in clothing, even overly primped etc.............
Perhaps.
All sorts of people get married all the time.
If only certain types of people married and procreated, the human race would be up a creek without a paddle... and really boringly homogeneous.
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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/16/2010 1:13:09 PM
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Jayelle79
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So do you believe that someone with similar characteristics would be attracted to each other even people withe bad hygiene, weight extremes, no taste in clothing, even overly primped etc.............
Do you mean, would a person with bad hygiene be more likely to be attracted to someone else with bad hygiene (or any other specific physical descriptive)?
I don't think attraction necessarily follows such rules. I've seen couples where one spouse is one extreme (insert charicteristic here) and the other spouse is the opposite extreme.
**Disclaimer--the following is not my personal opinion:
I remember reading about a study regarding physical attraction. I can't remember the name of the author. Anyway, one of the things he said (and I'm paraphrasing) is that if people were ranked on an attractiveness scale of 1-10, then a couple would have better chances of long-term success if both members were similarly attractive. So, according to this theory, a relationship between a "5" and a "7" would be more likely to last than a relationship between a "3" and a "10."
My personal opinion is that attraction is such a complicated thing that it's hard to break down and categorize. For example, when I responded earlier in this thread, I said that one of my "turn-offs" is weight extremes. However, the man I'm currently interested in is quite over-weight. I honestly didn't see him that way until someone pointed it out. So, it made me think, "Hmm...I guess he is overweight, but I find him very attractive."
OK. That was kind of a long response and I'm not even sure if I read your question correctly, so I better stop typing now 
EDITED because I don't remember the author for sure and don't want to reference the wrong person.
< Message edited by Jayelle79 -- 2/16/2010 4:10:06 PM >
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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/16/2010 4:16:12 PM
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Elena1030
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For marriage, some people gravitate more toward those who are most like them. Others are comfortable with a bit wider amount of difference between the two people, in various areas. And still others don't really analyze why they want to marry a particular person; they just do it.
I think I'm also still a bit confused as to where you're going with your line of thinking. I sense there's more to this issue than mere curiosity... but I could be wrong. Maybe you're just intellectually curious about this topic. And that's fine, of course! Just want to be sure we're really helping here.
I was in a relationship for a very long time 16yrs to be exact. So I'm just curious on the whole dating subject. All the posts I've read have been helpful.
OK. That's understandable.
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Anyway, one of the things he said (and I'm paraphrasing) is that if people were ranked on an attractiveness scale of 1-10, then a couple would have better chances of long-term success if both members were similarly attractive. So, according to this theory, a relationship between a "5" and a "7" would be more likely to last than a relationship between a "3" and a "10."
I think that's bizarre. 
Talking about humans in general...
Well, if you tweak the theory to be about who's more likely to be attracted to whom and actually begin a relationship -- rather than it being about which relationship is more likely to succeed -- then I agree: from what I've observed, people who are closer "on the scale" of attractiveness are more likely to date each other.
A 3 and a 9, for example, might date each other. It has happened. It's just rare... in my observation.
But of course, that doesn't take into account other factors for people's choosing to date someone... esp. issues of character and if the two persons are believers.
Success of the relationship is a different matter! Definitely takes more than "compatibility" in physical attractiveness. (As if that can be accurately, objectively measured anyway... !)
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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/16/2010 4:30:17 PM
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Jayelle79
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I think that's bizarre.
I thought so, too. In order for such a theory to hold water, I would think there would have to be some concrete way to determine what "attractive" means--some way to quantify it. But, the truth is, it varies from era to era, culture to culture, and person to person.
And of course (as others have said) there are a ton of other factors--such as personality, character, intelligence, etc.--that affect attraction.
So, I guess we can all have a list of what we consider to be turn-offs, but some of those very qualities can turn out to be attractive when the right person comes along.
I think it was Pastor Mark Driscoll who said when you get married, your spouse IS your type. If your husband is short, overweight, and bald, then your type is short, overweight, and bald. I love that!
OK...I'm rambling again.
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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/16/2010 4:46:57 PM
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Elena1030
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I think that's bizarre.
I thought so, too. In order for such a theory to hold water, I would think there would have to be some concrete way to determine what "attractive" means--some way to quantify it. But, the truth is, it varies from era to era, culture to culture, and person to person.
Exactly!
A guy I find to be an 8 might seem to be a 4 to another woman.
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And of course (as others have said) there are a ton of other factors--such as personality, character, intelligence, etc.--that affect attraction.
So, I guess we can all have a list of what we consider to be turn-offs, but some of those very qualities can turn out to be attractive when the right person comes along.
Exactly!
A factor is like a piece of mosaic tile. And each person is like a unique mosaic pattern. Some people have tiles in common, but no two people's mosaic patterns or overall pictures are the same.
I used to think I wouldn't want facial hair on my man... till I met a guy who had a goatee. And I liked his!!  (He and I ultimately were not a match, so we broke up. And now 10 years later, he's happily married, and I'm thrilled for him. And he and his wife look as if they were a cute lil' pair of salt-n-pepper shakers... they're such a well complemented "set"!)
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RE: Physical Attraction - 3/9/2010 4:36:26 AM
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serasvictoria
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PHYSICAL:
01. Little to no hygiene (b.o./bad breath/etc)
02. short hair or no hair
03. baggy pants, seriously pull yo' pants up!
04. morbid obesity (it's not attractive or good for your health)
05. excessive body hair (like Robin Williams)
06. extremely tanned guys (glowing orange)
EMOTIONAL/MENTAL/PERSONALITY:
01. disrespectful
02. violent or throws hissy fits when angry
03. alcohol/smoking/drug use
04. cursing
05. hypocritical
06. lazy/unemployed because of laziness
07. arrogance
08. immaturity
09. someone who thinks he knows everything, but cant back it up with facts
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RE: Physical Attraction - 3/21/2010 10:32:56 PM
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browneyes222
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Acne.
Bad hygiene or lack of showering.
Bad Breath.
Bad mouth or teeth.
Smoking.
Chewing tobacco.
Drinker.
Wandering Eyes or staring down other women.
Lot's of tatoo's.
Unemployed.
Men that make less than me is unattractive.
Living with parents
Rude or crude language.
Disrespectful.
Years ago I would have also included short, bald, really hairy men too but then I married one and I'm so thankful I did.  I love my man and he loves me.
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RE: Physical Attraction - 3/22/2010 2:46:02 AM
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Elena1030
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06. extremely tanned guys (glowing orange)
Yep, if you've gone to "Oompa-Loompa," you've gone way too far!! Put down the self-tanner!! Walk away from the tanning bed!!
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RE: Physical Attraction - 3/22/2010 2:49:36 AM
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Saltlight_2188
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Yeah, I wasn't going to respond, because I don't think this thread is particularly edifying, but I had to chime in and agree with Browneyes and Elena. No "tanorexic" guys need apply
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RE: Physical Attraction - 3/22/2010 12:59:25 PM
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BelleWeather
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A 3 and a 9, for example, might date each other. It has happened. It's just rare... in my observation.
But of course, that doesn't take into account other factors for people's choosing to date someone... esp. issues of character and if the two persons are believers. I've had many engaged couples come in for ballroom dance lessons--there is the occasional couple where the groom is prettier than the bride, and vise-versa. On paper they look unbalanced, out of proportion, in some cases, totally mismatched. And then you see them working together, becoming physically comfortable with each other, learning a skill outside of their daily experience, helping and assuring each other, laughing together--I have no doubt the depth of their feelings for their loved one.
There are other couples where something else is going on--money, social position, trophy spouse, objectification--I can't begin to guess.
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Success of the relationship is a different matter! Definitely takes more than "compatibility" in physical attractiveness. (As if that can be accurately, objectively measured anyway... !) Absolutely! If a relationship is based primarily on physical attributes, it will take a huge effort of both parties to build more to support and sustain a lifelong relationship. Beauty and youth fades.
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RE: Physical Attraction - 3/23/2010 12:51:46 AM
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far_horizon
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His breath and bad mannerism.
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RE: Physical Attraction - 3/30/2010 4:36:57 PM
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smiley7
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Physical turn-offs for me personally are metro-sexuals and any guy who primps and preens like a peacock. I find average looking guys much more attractive than the supposedly good looking ones. In my experience, they tend to have more depth.
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